One comment I received privately about DLF’s comment to remove Baby Gammy from his mother and place him with a “good family” – I sought and received permission to post publicly:
What constitutes “good”. When I worked at the Dept of Community Services I came across a lot of teen adoptees who were very damaged because of the adopted parents that had been chosen for them. Honestly you would not have given them the worst kind of pet let alone a child. (name withheld).
Brother Alex MacDonald worked with street kids in Melbourne in the 1980s. He made the astounding comment published in a news article that out of 149 drug related suicides he attended – 147 were adoptees.
Psychiatrist Dr. Geoff Rickarby has spoken and written of the large number of adoptees he has seen in his clinical practice. He advised the government as early as the 1970s that potential adopters were not being adequately screened and were not prepared for rearing a child who was so different from them. He was not just talking about physical characteristics, but thinking patterns and behaviours that were alien to the adopters. He also complained that adoption was being used as a “cure for infertility” and many adopters had mental health problems that were believed to be cured if given an infant. Whilst many adoptees he saw suffered serious identity crises and stated they never felt as if they “fitted in”. These adoptive families, Dr. Rickarby stated, were the “healthier ones” because they were seeking help.
Kerry Saint, an adoptee stolen from her mother: a widow, has been extraordinarily vocal about the physical and sexual abuse she suffered at the hands of the parents the state placed her with.
20% of parents who adopt from overseas go overseas and adopt whilst abroad. They then apply to bring the infant back to Australia. The adopters are never screened. A fact I brought to your attention in a previous post. This revelation was made during the Inquiry into Overseas Adoption (2005). This is a dangerous precedent and once again shows that adoption is an institution to satisfy adult needs not the best interests of children.
The case of Baby Gammy highlights how easy it is for a paedophile to acquire a baby.
Infants forcibly taken from their unwed mothers became Wards of the State before being adopted. It was the Minister’s duty to select adequate parents. I do not understand when many adoptees have complained of being physically and sexually abused and former DOCs workers are aware of abuse in adoptive home why adoptees were not included to give evidence at the Royal Commission into Child Sex Abuse. Adoption is an institution. Children are reared by two biological strangers. Is there any real difference between a foster and an adoptive home? They are both creatures of the state. If one argues there is more permanence in the adoptive home – then the high number of divorces are not being taken into account – I am aware of cases where the divorce was initiated because the adoptive father was sexually abusing the adopted children. Neither is the fact that one adopter might die – as happened to many of our taken children – who were then ironically reared by a sole parent.